The World of Introverts

           How do Introverts see the world 

A flower is blooming and a butterfly is flying around that innocence. This is a random picture of nature. Four among five persons would see this. But only one can notice the small details and the inner beauty in it, only one can feel the joy of the butterfly and the smile of the flower.

Introvert - a familiar word in day to day life. Being an introvert is a bliss as well as an obstacle for the regular world. 

A Portraiture of an Introvert-Soul :-

"I want to be alone…. with someone else who wants to be alone." - Dimitri Zaik

• They are very much sincere to choose people they share their thoughts with.

• They have their own world in which they don't allow others to enter.

• They love to spend time alone and also refuel themselves being alone.

• They think a lot, but keep themselves quiet.

• They like to keep their time, spirit and intensity specifically for the persons who reflect themselves.

• They have a great observation power and analytical intensity. Sometimes they are actually minimalist. 

• They have the creative mind.

Various kinds of Introversion we can see :-

Psychologist Jonathan Cheek (Wellesley College) has made some research and categorised the Introvert. But at the end, all get amalgamated into a single one. Still we should know about the diversity to relate ourselves and accept the reality with guts, and get prepared to face the challenges of the outer world.

1. Social Introvert - They sincerely avoid social gathering and communication. They get uncomfortable or shy or timid to join with the social crowd. They have few people to break their regular solitude.

2. Thinking Introvert - They have a special kind of intensity to think common happenings in a different perspective. While thinking they just ignore the social environment, the presence of people. They live in a dreamy imaginary world.

3. Anxious Introvert - They basically become very nervous and feel uncomfortable with unacquainted persons or in a social crowd. So they intentionally try to isolate themselves from social issues. For the lack of self-confidence, they feel awkward unreasonably.

4. Restrained Introvert - 'Think before speaking' - this defines the Restrained Introverts. They try to avoid unprompted circumstances. They become shy and puzzled. They have to get prepared before they open up.

Some Self-Care Sparks:-

Though people think that being Introverted is a behavioral disorder or may be a psychological issue, it isn't a problem at all. They are just like others. All people are different, so they are just a kind of people. So there is no problem, so no need for a solution. But I can suggest some self-care points which are especially effective for the Introverts.

• First and foremost, there is no need to change yourself. Be what you are. Cherish your true self.

• Being an introvert does not mean not to care for others. I know you do. Do in that way you are comfortable with. 

• To avoid stress and depression, you should spend time with your family or with your closest ones or with your non-human buddies.

• Stay in your own imaginary world, but sometimes try to touch reality. It's important. Try to enrich others with your intellect and get enriched from other precious thoughts, get enriched with the practicalities.

• Don't ever think that you are worthless. Don't ever lose your self-confidence. Go and stand in front of the mirror, see the sparkle within yourself .

• There is a kind of bad introversion. If you have those qualities, you need to be changed. Specifically, I can say, don't preserve the arrogant or bad attitude towards others. Whenever it is needed, you have to communicate. Nobody can read minds. Whenever your hands need to assistance , come out of your shell. That's enough.

A tiny concluding message from an Introvert:-

Yes, I'm also an introvert. That's good. It will be monotonous if each person will be the same. So don't ever belittle yourself. You are great in your own way. So be faithful to yourself and be kind enough to mankind.

Suicide - Not A Remedy

"Have nothing to live for…"

"There's no reason for me to live…"

There may be many causes behind a death, but only one for your living- that is your willingness to live. And all the causes of death come to this ultimate point of reluctance to live. 

"Nothing to get from this life. So goodbye."

Why? Just think, now, this is the time to give your life something, time to adorn life. 

Today's teenagers are so much progressive in all respects, this is good indeed, but not great. We forget to notice the problems arising from it. In this era of speed, they may be unacquainted with the word 'patience'. Sometimes they may think that hurting oneself is a tricky way to get one's desired thing from elders or others. Sometimes, the little scolding of parents becomes the cause of committing suicide for a teenager.

Sad but true, there are two types of teenagers, rather two types of mentality. For one, death is a trick, a weapon, and for others, death is the ultimate way to get rid from all adversities. But sadly, no one has  faith on the word 'try', no one has belief in themselves. But they are the genius generation of the 21st century. Actually suicidal tendency is not a new one, years after years almost above 60% death happens by committing suicide. But nowadays the rate has increased and most importantly, teenagers who are the blooming hope of future, are prone to suicide, without trying the last resort. Actually there does not exist any problem which has no solution. 

The source of the debacle is depression, because sadness may create a desire for committing suicide, but there will be no courage to commit . But when sadness turns into depression, it reaches a mental condition of the thought - "I have nothing to lose, I have nothing, I am nothing." ; and in this phase, the dark shadow of suicidal tendency veils the person. 

Actually in the state of sadness, there is still a touch of hope, but depression is the complete darkness.

There's no remedy for this 'disease'. But some points of fact can be shared.

• Firstly, patience is the key word for achieving your goal. In all fields, in all conditions, to fight against any problem, you have to be patient first. Then everything will be gradually sorted out. 

• Over ambitiousness is a serious issue behind this. Having ambition, goals is quite important. But when it turns into over ambitiousness, it creates a void of uncertainty and quite possibly it makes the person disappointed and hopeless.

• Excessive stubbornness, anger and anxiety - these three have to be avoided. Keep yourself calm and face the Nether world. The peace within your soul can make the hellish fire the light of hope, faith and elevation. 

• Try, try and try hard. At the end of the day, you can see that you have reached the pillar of victory. If not, be satisfied that you reach almost near your aim, just can't touch it. Then take a breath and try again. And this effort actually makes a man winner, not the trophy in his hand.

• Last but not the least, never lose hope. Never belittle your own value, never forget your dear ones' smile. 

Live the Life with full vitality, if you think there are no reasons for spring, do one thing. Start finding the reason, you may get tired, may increase doubt on hope, may get irritated, but don't stop searching. While you are searching, you can find new hope, new vitality, new flowers blooming in every step. With each try you'll find something new to explore every new day. 

Mirage _ A Miniature Story

"...

 …. Yes, yes just come to my chamber. I'll see.

Don't worry Mrs. Basu . All will be well."

….

"Okay, see you at the evening"

The phone call gets disconnected.

………. ……….. …………

6'o clock it is. A well-furnished study room with lot of books, looks like a rich library. A young boy is there writing something and looking at the door frequently. Then,

"Good evening, Mrs. Basu. Welcome."

"Take a deep breath, and tell me what happened."

"Okay okay, Calm down. I get it. First , you tell me, you don't take those medications properly, do you? "

" Why? You thought you were okay. Are you a psychiatrist? Anyway listen, just relax. Nothing serious is going to happen."

"Listen , you are a good writer. And the story is just an imagination which may have a realistic base. But that doesn't mean that each line of your story is getting enacted in reality coincidentally or whatever. 

No… no. It's you who is unconsciously making it happen. And this is your problem, isn't it?"

"Okay okay, I understand that you know it and it haunts you when you remember what you have done unconsciously, by hallucinating or by having delusions. But you yourself have to be cured. I can just give you some advice, medicines and all, just to make you see the way. But you have to walk alone to heal yourself."

"Listen, ...there is no child getting harassed in your house. Your daughter is absolutely safe. Everything is fine. Please don't mix your past with your daughter's life." 

"Now I would strictly recommend you not to continue your novel. Take some rest for a few months. Please ..

No….no.. don't get hyper …. please understand...take a deep breath and listen.

This is a minor problem now, but if you underestimate or overestimate it, it will affect you and your daughter's life. Paranoid schizophrenia is nothing serious, can be cured. Just don't freak out."

"...hmm... Hmm….right."

"...Right. So, not as a psychiatrist, but as your friend I assure you that."

  "….yes... exactly...you can."

" Okay, then. Have a nice day. …"

………….. …………. …………… ……………

Beside the 'chamber', in the other room , a perplexed middle-aged lady is on a phone call,

"Hello...

Mr. Sen...

He has started again…."

"What? Yes yes, he has started continuing writing his novel since last night…

..yes, please come…"

Midnight Poetry _ Crusade

Crusade

________

 

So, why You shout?

 

The universe

Did you bloom?

Or, can you make

The pyre for Gloom?

 

So keep quiet...

 

Be just what you are,

Just a building of believes,

Just a Church, a Mosque,

A Temple mere...

  

Now

 

The time to rewrite

The ending sanctity

An Ending... Eternal

In the budding Humanity.

 

Depression - The Darkness

 

Isn’t it beautiful when you see a drowsy morning-smile on your child’s face? Like that, Morning also wants to see a glowing face when she wakes you up, her child. 

But in this century, most people wake up with a depressed version of themselves and conclude their day with a gloomy soul.

Depression is a familiar as well as a common word with a devastating effect on human beings. It is a mood disorder which affects mental and physical health, and relationships.

Though the symptoms of depression are different in men , women and children, the vital points are :-

• Irritability, mood swing, anger, intense sadness, feeling hopeless.

• Loss of interest in regular activities or hobbies, constant tiredness or fatigue

• Thoughts of suicide 

• Engaging in high-risk activity

• Withdrawing from social affairs

• Lack of sexual desire

• Excessive sexual need

• Thinking and talking more slowly

• Inability to concentrate

• Feelings of extreme guilt and shame

• Insomnia , restless sleep or excessive sleepiness

• Decreased energy and affected physical health

EXCESSIVE FRUSTRATION – THE SOURCE OF DEPRESSION:-

Almost everyone is frustrated, and the minimum level of frustration is required to progress in life. But when the frustration crosses its normal level and reaches the extreme, that uncontrollable frustration turns into depression.

Depression and frustration both are psychological stresses. But there is a certain difference.

What is frustration?

When we are unable to achieve our expected goals and get hindered several times by anyone or anything, frustration arises.

‘I cannot do it’, ‘I can never do that’, ‘Is it possible by me?’, ‘When will I do this perfectly?’ – these kind of sentences emit from frustration. These are negative, for sure. But it will be not so difficult to turn towards the positives from these ‘negatives’. This kind of normal self-doubt is healthy.

But when the sentences turn into ‘I am worthless’, ‘I am just a shabby garbage in this world’, ‘No need to live anymore’ , the self-doubts get established in the mind and that leads to the horrible depression.

Some negativity is required to make things positive, and some negativity should be destroyed in an early stage. Depression comes in the ultimate state of frustration. So we should control our frustrations and keep it only for positive outcomes.

How to recover from Depression?

Remember the YOLO philosophy? You Only Live Once. So live life to the fullest. Live like a butterfly…

Nothing is impossible. So depression generally can be recovered by consulting psychiatrists. The other way to cure is through Magnetic Stimulation (a new study by researchers from Stanford University and Palo Alto University).

But I can say, it’s all in your hands. If you choose to be happy, you can live a stress-free life. I’m not a professional medico, but can suggest some ways to overcome this darkness.

• Firstly, you have to make yourself understand that you are not worthless. There is something that cannot happened without the touch of your hands. There are many flowers that cannot bloom without your smile. So you are precious and important as well. Actually everybody has his duty for this world which has to be performed only by him. Always remember you too have something in you that will enrich the world.

I think self-love works the most.

• Divide time for work and relaxation. Most importantly try to enjoy what you are doing.

• Meditation is always a great healer. Must be enlisted in your daily routine. You can do exercise as well to boost your energy and good-feeling. You can walk few times a week. Last but not the least, eat healthy and sleep tight (especially sleeping naked reduces stress and depression)

• Creativity keeps negativity away. Create something new- whatever you can. The feeling of creating something will rejuvenate you.

Do anything new. Try to visit places where you have always desired to go. Read new books and listen to music (but please not the sad songs). Try to cherish your hobbies.

• Spend time with your family, especially with children – they are the gifts of God, surely will make you lively. Help your parents/ partners/others in household chores.

    Just make yourself busy in a positive way.

Depression is a darkness, but there is always light behind the gloomy cloud. Consider the night as the envelope of the dawn, dawn – the letter of light, the letter of life.

                           ________________

                    

Spectrophilia (The Ghost Sex)

Psychology is like an underground chamber, it has a hidden and huge world within it, and when the secret door gets opened, we wonder with awe and excitement. 

Spectrophilia - a new word to the common people. Though some are aware of this,there are many more to unfold. 

The Ghost Sex or Spectrophilia is an erotic attraction to ghosts, or sexual desire for black entity, unknown image. This is an imaginary sexual practice between human and ghost or dark entity.

Sometimes it takes place with the image of one's beloved, the partner either may be alive or deceased.

This phenomenon is not a psychological disorder, rather it is a kind of fetish of different individual. Most of the humans like these things the most:

• Negative or Dark

• Eccentric concepts 

• Being different

• Escaping the conventional 

Morbid curiosity (that desire to know about dark, death, negativity, anything which is mentally disturbing) is not in any way unnatural. The common curiosity of horror stuff is kind of morbid curiosity and that is normal. So Spectrophilia is in no way unhealthy, but exceptional.

Ghost sex is not equivalent to Incubus Attack. The first one is done willingly, for pleasure and the second one is a disorder which makes the person panicstricken and terrified. The person feels an unwanted sexual force by a dark entity or demon which is very scary. 

Spectrophilia is not an unearthly or ghostly activity. So it must not be attached with the word 'paranormal'.

'Ghost' does not mean a spirit. Ghost is a dark entity which is not physically present , it is just a shadowy image created by a human's strong visualisation and imagination. 

There's no particular cause for this erraticness. But this segregation can be done to clear the conception.

• Anyone who is deprived from sexual contact with his/her partner

• Anyone who is fascinated with this unconventional way of getting pleasure 

• The person who wishes to consummate with his/her deceased partner 

A Spectrophile must have these four qualities:

• A deep eccentric sexual perception

• Strong imagination power

• Fearless mind

• Offbeat thinking habit 

Some cases are there in which a person has seen a dark spirit. The spirit has appeared gradually over the human. He has felt a sexual pressure which is pleasurable to him. Then successfully he has reached the climax and has gotten satisfaction.

But the person has to feel the positive vibe there, otherwise it would take a wrong turn.

Lucy Liu told US Weekly that her consummation with a ghost was "sheer bliss". She said, "I felt everything. I climaxed and he floated away."

Actually, there's no proof of any 'ghost' in this practice. It is the mere idea or conception which a spectrophile loves to cherish, loves to think that he/she is going to unite with a 'ghost'.

Mark D. Griffiths states, "The main sexual outlet for spectrophilia would appear to be masturbation."

In our society, sex is a taboo and being unconventional is offensive to a lot of people. So, in this environment, any kind of bizarre desire can not be taken with a free mind. So most of the people cannot open up themselves. Their natural desire, may it be offbeat, gets suppressed. 

So everything, which is not harmful or unhealthy in any way, has to be revealed proudly.

The Living Incubus - A Miniature Story

'A 46 year old bank manager was missing since yesterday morning. His wife had fainted several times. She said that her husband went to….'

She is reading the article in today's newspaper.

Today is quite different from other days , she is feeling so refreshed. As usual, waking up early in the morning, instead of cleaning the bed, she is going to the terrace. 

What a serene morning! The first ray is touching her softly, the mild breeze is playing with her hairs. The hidden rainbow smile is now on her face. Like a new day!

Carelessly throwing the newspaper on the bed, she is thinking, 'Let's get fresh first. Then, umm, will make Poha , Mishu loves this…'

Suddenly the doorbell is ringing. 

"Oh Mashi, come in." 

The maid-servant is coming in and taking the dusting broom. 

"Don't be so upset, Boudi. Dada will be found soon. Police are investigating, na?" 

The maid is saying to her with deep eyes of consolation.

But,

"I know, he will never come." - her firm voice makes the maid feel a little weird, though she continues her consolation with more sympathy, while dusting.

" He will never come back…

… actually it's not possible

… The poison had already killed the Poison

… I made the dinner … not to make him come back..

 … He will not come

… He must not come actually …."

 A mind cried out with a great apathy.

 … ….

"O Mashi , no need to clean my bedroom, I'll, no need to go there..."

… …. ….

"Mishu , get up honey. Look, the 'sunny-sunny'  has again woken up before you, so early. Get up Sona."

Mishu is getting up gradually.

With a drowsy as well as excited voice, she starts,

"Momma,

Last night I had slept so peacefully, so well.

.

You know, the dark ghost who is just like Daddy, I told you… he didn't come over my body to hurt, to punish last night. 

Look, it is not painful today… it's not painful.."

The girl gets down from her bed so quickly to hug her mother and that makes the mirror beside her fall down and break into pieces. 

This is happening so suddenly, she is getting awkward and feeling sorry.

"It's ok. Its destiny is to become dust"

The words of the mother are smirking on the broken glasses.