How do Introverts see the world
A flower is blooming and a butterfly is flying around that innocence. This is a random picture of nature. Four among five persons would see this. But only one can notice the small details and the inner beauty in it, only one can feel the joy of the butterfly and the smile of the flower.
Introvert - a familiar word in day to day life. Being an introvert is a bliss as well as an obstacle for the regular world.
A Portraiture of an Introvert-Soul :-
"I want to be alone…. with someone else who wants to be alone." - Dimitri Zaik
They are very much sincere to choose people they share their thoughts with.
They have their own world in which they don't allow others to enter.
They love to spend time alone and also refuel themselves being alone.
They think a lot, but keep themselves quiet.
They like to keep their time, spirit and intensity specifically for the persons who reflect themselves.
They have a great observation power and analytical intensity. Sometimes they are actually minimalist.
They have the creative mind.
Various kinds of Introversion we can see :-
Psychologist Jonathan Cheek (Wellesley College) has made some research and categorised the Introvert. But at the end, all get amalgamated into a single one. Still we should know about the diversity to relate ourselves and accept the reality with guts, and get prepared to face the challenges of the outer world.
Social Introvert - They sincerely avoid social gathering and communication. They get uncomfortable or shy or timid to join with the social crowd. They have few people to break their regular solitude.
Thinking Introvert - They have a special kind of intensity to think common happenings in a different perspective. While thinking they just ignore the social environment, the presence of people. They live in a dreamy imaginary world.
Anxious Introvert - They basically become very nervous and feel uncomfortable with unacquainted persons or in a social crowd. So they intentionally try to isolate themselves from social issues. For the lack of self-confidence, they feel awkward unreasonably.
Restrained Introvert - 'Think before speaking' - this defines the Restrained Introverts. They try to avoid unprompted circumstances. They become shy and puzzled. They have to get prepared before they open up.
Some Self-Care Sparks:-
Though people think that being Introverted is a behavioral disorder or may be a psychological issue, it isn't a problem at all. They are just like others. All people are different, so they are just a kind of people. So there is no problem, so no need for a solution. But I can suggest some self-care points which are especially effective for the Introverts.
First and foremost, there is no need to change yourself. Be what you are. Cherish your true self.
Being an introvert does not mean not to care for others. I know you do. Do in that way you are comfortable with.
To avoid stress and depression, you should spend time with your family or with your closest ones or with your non-human buddies.
Stay in your own imaginary world, but sometimes try to touch reality. It's important. Try to enrich others with your intellect and get enriched from other precious thoughts, get enriched with the practicalities.
Don't ever think that you are worthless. Don't ever lose your self-confidence. Go and stand in front of the mirror, see the sparkle within yourself .
There is a kind of bad introversion. If you have those qualities, you need to be changed. Specifically, I can say, don't preserve the arrogant or bad attitude towards others. Whenever it is needed, you have to communicate. Nobody can read minds. Whenever your hands need to assistance , come out of your shell. That's enough.
A tiny concluding message from an Introvert:-
Yes, I'm also an introvert. That's good. It will be monotonous if each person will be the same. So don't ever belittle yourself. You are great in your own way. So be faithful to yourself and be kind enough to mankind.
"Have nothing to live for…"
"There's no reason for me to live…"
There may be many causes behind a death, but only one for your living- that is your willingness to live. And all the causes of death come to this ultimate point of reluctance to live.
"Nothing to get from this life. So goodbye."
Why? Just think, now, this is the time to give your life something, time to adorn life.
Today's teenagers are so much progressive in all respects, this is good indeed, but not great. We forget to notice the problems arising from it. In this era of speed, they may be unacquainted with the word 'patience'. Sometimes they may think that hurting oneself is a tricky way to get one's desired thing from elders or others. Sometimes, the little scolding of parents becomes the cause of committing suicide for a teenager.
Sad but true, there are two types of teenagers, rather two types of mentality. For one, death is a trick, a weapon, and for others, death is the ultimate way to get rid from all adversities. But sadly, no one has faith on the word 'try', no one has belief in themselves. But they are the genius generation of the 21st century. Actually suicidal tendency is not a new one, years after years almost above 60% death happens by committing suicide. But nowadays the rate has increased and most importantly, teenagers who are the blooming hope of future, are prone to suicide, without trying the last resort. Actually there does not exist any problem which has no solution.
The source of the debacle is depression, because sadness may create a desire for committing suicide, but there will be no courage to commit . But when sadness turns into depression, it reaches a mental condition of the thought - "I have nothing to lose, I have nothing, I am nothing." ; and in this phase, the dark shadow of suicidal tendency veils the person.
Actually in the state of sadness, there is still a touch of hope, but depression is the complete darkness.
There's no remedy for this 'disease'. But some points of fact can be shared.
Firstly, patience is the key word for achieving your goal. In all fields, in all conditions, to fight against any problem, you have to be patient first. Then everything will be gradually sorted out.
Over ambitiousness is a serious issue behind this. Having ambition, goals is quite important. But when it turns into over ambitiousness, it creates a void of uncertainty and quite possibly it makes the person disappointed and hopeless.
Excessive stubbornness, anger and anxiety - these three have to be avoided. Keep yourself calm and face the Nether world. The peace within your soul can make the hellish fire the light of hope, faith and elevation.
Try, try and try hard. At the end of the day, you can see that you have reached the pillar of victory. If not, be satisfied that you reach almost near your aim, just can't touch it. Then take a breath and try again. And this effort actually makes a man winner, not the trophy in his hand.
Last but not the least, never lose hope. Never belittle your own value, never forget your dear ones' smile.
Live the Life with full vitality, if you think there are no reasons for spring, do one thing. Start finding the reason, you may get tired, may increase doubt on hope, may get irritated, but don't stop searching. While you are searching, you can find new hope, new vitality, new flowers blooming in every step. With each try you'll find something new to explore every new day.
Crusade
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So, why You shout?
The universe
Did you bloom?
Or, can you make
The pyre for Gloom?
So keep quiet...
Be just what you are,
Just a building of
believes,
Just a Church, a
Mosque,
A Temple mere...
Now
The time to rewrite
The ending sanctity
An Ending... Eternal
In the budding Humanity.
Isn’t it beautiful when you see a drowsy morning-smile on your child’s face? Like that, Morning also wants to see a glowing face when she wakes you up, her child.
But in this century, most people wake up with a depressed version of themselves and conclude their day with a gloomy soul.
Depression is a familiar as well as a common word with a devastating effect on human beings. It is a mood disorder which affects mental and physical health, and relationships.
Though the symptoms of depression are different in men , women and children, the vital points are :-
Irritability, mood swing, anger, intense sadness, feeling hopeless.
Loss of interest in regular activities or hobbies, constant tiredness or fatigue
Thoughts of suicide
Engaging in high-risk activity
Withdrawing from social affairs
Lack of sexual desire
Excessive sexual need
Thinking and talking more slowly
Inability to concentrate
Feelings of extreme guilt and shame
Insomnia , restless sleep or excessive sleepiness
Decreased energy and affected physical health
EXCESSIVE FRUSTRATION – THE SOURCE OF DEPRESSION:-
Almost everyone is frustrated, and the minimum level of frustration is required to progress in life. But when the frustration crosses its normal level and reaches the extreme, that uncontrollable frustration turns into depression.
Depression and frustration both are psychological stresses. But there is a certain difference.
What is frustration?
When we are unable to achieve our expected goals and get hindered several times by anyone or anything, frustration arises.
‘I cannot do it’, ‘I can never do that’, ‘Is it possible by me?’, ‘When will I do this perfectly?’ – these kind of sentences emit from frustration. These are negative, for sure. But it will be not so difficult to turn towards the positives from these ‘negatives’. This kind of normal self-doubt is healthy.
But when the sentences turn into ‘I am worthless’, ‘I am just a shabby garbage in this world’, ‘No need to live anymore’ , the self-doubts get established in the mind and that leads to the horrible depression.
Some negativity is required to make things positive, and some negativity should be destroyed in an early stage. Depression comes in the ultimate state of frustration. So we should control our frustrations and keep it only for positive outcomes.
How to recover from Depression?
Remember the YOLO philosophy? You Only Live Once. So live life to the fullest. Live like a butterfly…
Nothing is impossible. So depression generally can be recovered by consulting psychiatrists. The other way to cure is through Magnetic Stimulation (a new study by researchers from Stanford University and Palo Alto University).
But I can say, it’s all in your hands. If you choose to be happy, you can live a stress-free life. I’m not a professional medico, but can suggest some ways to overcome this darkness.
Firstly, you have to make yourself understand that you are not worthless. There is something that cannot happened without the touch of your hands. There are many flowers that cannot bloom without your smile. So you are precious and important as well. Actually everybody has his duty for this world which has to be performed only by him. Always remember you too have something in you that will enrich the world.
I think self-love works the most.
Divide time for work and relaxation. Most importantly try to enjoy what you are doing.
Meditation is always a great healer. Must be enlisted in your daily routine. You can do exercise as well to boost your energy and good-feeling. You can walk few times a week. Last but not the least, eat healthy and sleep tight (especially sleeping naked reduces stress and depression)
Creativity keeps negativity away. Create something new- whatever you can. The feeling of creating something will rejuvenate you.
Do anything new. Try to visit places where you have always desired to go. Read new books and listen to music (but please not the sad songs). Try to cherish your hobbies.
Spend time with your family, especially with children – they are the gifts of God, surely will make you lively. Help your parents/ partners/others in household chores.
Just make yourself busy in a positive way.
Depression is a darkness, but there is always light behind the gloomy cloud. Consider the night as the envelope of the dawn, dawn – the letter of light, the letter of life.
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Psychology is like an underground chamber, it has a hidden and huge world within it, and when the secret door gets opened, we wonder with awe and excitement.
Spectrophilia - a new word to the common people. Though some are aware of this,there are many more to unfold.
The Ghost Sex or Spectrophilia is an erotic attraction to ghosts, or sexual desire for black entity, unknown image. This is an imaginary sexual practice between human and ghost or dark entity.
Sometimes it takes place with the image of one's beloved, the partner either may be alive or deceased.
This phenomenon is not a psychological disorder, rather it is a kind of fetish of different individual. Most of the humans like these things the most:
Negative or Dark
Eccentric concepts
Being different
Escaping the conventional
Morbid curiosity (that desire to know about dark, death, negativity, anything which is mentally disturbing) is not in any way unnatural. The common curiosity of horror stuff is kind of morbid curiosity and that is normal. So Spectrophilia is in no way unhealthy, but exceptional.
Ghost sex is not equivalent to Incubus Attack. The first one is done willingly, for pleasure and the second one is a disorder which makes the person panicstricken and terrified. The person feels an unwanted sexual force by a dark entity or demon which is very scary.
Spectrophilia is not an unearthly or ghostly activity. So it must not be attached with the word 'paranormal'.
'Ghost' does not mean a spirit. Ghost is a dark entity which is not physically present , it is just a shadowy image created by a human's strong visualisation and imagination.
There's no particular cause for this erraticness. But this segregation can be done to clear the conception.
Anyone who is deprived from sexual contact with his/her partner
Anyone who is fascinated with this unconventional way of getting pleasure
The person who wishes to consummate with his/her deceased partner
A Spectrophile must have these four qualities:
A deep eccentric sexual perception
Strong imagination power
Fearless mind
Offbeat thinking habit
Some cases are there in which a person has seen a dark spirit. The spirit has appeared gradually over the human. He has felt a sexual pressure which is pleasurable to him. Then successfully he has reached the climax and has gotten satisfaction.
But the person has to feel the positive vibe there, otherwise it would take a wrong turn.
Lucy Liu told US Weekly that her consummation with a ghost was "sheer bliss". She said, "I felt everything. I climaxed and he floated away."
Actually, there's no proof of any 'ghost' in this practice. It is the mere idea or conception which a spectrophile loves to cherish, loves to think that he/she is going to unite with a 'ghost'.
Mark D. Griffiths states, "The main sexual outlet for spectrophilia would appear to be masturbation."
In our society, sex is a taboo and being unconventional is offensive to a lot of people. So, in this environment, any kind of bizarre desire can not be taken with a free mind. So most of the people cannot open up themselves. Their natural desire, may it be offbeat, gets suppressed.
So everything, which is not harmful or unhealthy in any way, has to be revealed proudly.
'A 46 year old bank manager was missing since yesterday morning. His wife had fainted several times. She said that her husband went to….'
She is reading the article in today's newspaper.
Today is quite different from other days , she is feeling so refreshed. As usual, waking up early in the morning, instead of cleaning the bed, she is going to the terrace.
What a serene morning! The first ray is touching her softly, the mild breeze is playing with her hairs. The hidden rainbow smile is now on her face. Like a new day!
Carelessly throwing the newspaper on the bed, she is thinking, 'Let's get fresh first. Then, umm, will make Poha , Mishu loves this…'
Suddenly the doorbell is ringing.
"Oh Mashi, come in."
The maid-servant is coming in and taking the dusting broom.
"Don't be so upset, Boudi. Dada will be found soon. Police are investigating, na?"
The maid is saying to her with deep eyes of consolation.
But,
"I know, he will never come." - her firm voice makes the maid feel a little weird, though she continues her consolation with more sympathy, while dusting.
" He will never come back…
… actually it's not possible
… The poison had already killed the Poison
… I made the dinner … not to make him come back..
… He will not come
… He must not come actually …."
A mind cried out with a great apathy.
… ….
"O Mashi , no need to clean my bedroom, I'll, no need to go there..."
… …. ….
"Mishu , get up honey. Look, the 'sunny-sunny' has again woken up before you, so early. Get up Sona."
Mishu is getting up gradually.
With a drowsy as well as excited voice, she starts,
"Momma,
Last night I had slept so peacefully, so well.
.
You know, the dark ghost who is just like Daddy, I told you… he didn't come over my body to hurt, to punish last night.
Look, it is not painful today… it's not painful.."
The girl gets down from her bed so quickly to hug her mother and that makes the mirror beside her fall down and break into pieces.
This is happening so suddenly, she is getting awkward and feeling sorry.
"It's ok. Its destiny is to become dust"
The words of the mother are smirking on the broken glasses.
Mythology always fascinates me in a different way. But when the wave of mythology touches the shore of psychology, it makes a unique universe.
'Incubus attack' or Sleep Paralysis is a common term in Parasomnia. Let's begin with the mythological background of this sleeping disorder.
It is said that Incubus is the son of Lilith (according to the most common myth). Incubus, the demon with horrible sexual desire, attacks women while they sleep. He impregnates them with the demon's child. On the contrary, Succubus, the female form of Incubus, comes for men. She collects semen from that male victim to inseminate women after deforming into Incubus. It is an ill-process of producing satanic offspring with devilish seed.
This terrifying paranormal erotic experience is nothing but a sleeping disorder. The victim hallucinates a dark entity trying to rape him/her. But the person can't move himself, just gradually getting panicked terribly.
Sleep Paralysis happens during REM sleep (Rapid Eye Movement) when the brain is active, but the whole body is in the state of cataplexy (temporarily losing the muscle control which makes one weaker and collapsed physically). In this deepest phase of sleep, dreams are intense.
During Sleep Paralysis these problems arise:
Blood pressure gets high
Heart rate rises
Breathing trouble
All time tired
Getting panicked while going to sleep
Sleep Paralysis has some reasons to happen :
Adverse situation or circumstance
Interrupted sleep (jet lag, shifting job etc.)
Insomnia
Too much stress (Regular nightmares, feeling of deep isolation , irritation and guilt)
Anxiety
Sexual depression
Sudden panic-attack or fear
Genetic issues
Can anyone get rid from this erotic horrifying hallucination? Actually there's no specific solution for this psychological disorder. But these can help :
Regular sleep for at least 8 hours
Particular sleeping habit ( same time for sleeping at night and waking up in the morning everyday)
Do not go for any exciting things (like rich dinner, alcohol, watching nerve-racking movies or videos, continuous smoking etc.) before sleeping
Not to sleep on the back
Do exercise and meditation daily (morning or evening is the good time for it)
Last but not the least, do not get panicked thinking about this problem the whole day, be relaxed.
Sleep Paralysis can't be related with 'imagination or fantasy' , this is a scary hallucination where the person suddenly feels some horrible sexual force trying to attack , a lustful dark spirit is there to rape. This is very frightening.
Incubus (which lies upon) or Succubus (which lies beneath) is actually the darkest cloud within you which tries to wrap you up with all the negative dreadful dismay.
If you try to calm yourself in a peaceful way, hopefully, the chaos will be dispersed; and your everyday will take Zephyr for you.
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Smoking is injurious to health, like that overthinking also is injurious to health.
"ভাবো, ভাবো, ভাবা প্র্যাকটিস করো"
But don't over think. Excess of anything is always bad.
Thinking and re-thinking about anything and plucking imaginary stuffs from the wind of Fairyland which can never happen, make you injure yourself and the person who is intimately involved with you.
Well, it's a great 'fun'. A 'fun' just like wearing blindfold and standing on a random rail line to bid goodbye to the coming Rajdhani Express! What an idea!
I must suggest if you don't like adventure, don't try this 'fun'; and if you like adventure exceptionally, please don't try this one.
Overthinking is a psychological issue just like depression and all. Don't cherish it within you. If you feed it, it will devour your inner peace. It will start ruining your physical health as well as your spiritual intensity (positivity). Most importantly it will not only affect you but also your nearest petals.
When you trust something or someone too deeply and when you actually have no faith on anything or anyone, overthinking may arise relating to those matters.
In this respect, I can say, overthinking is the big-brother of doubt and too carefulness, isn't it so?
Think that you can't reach a solution from overthinking. Think that matters can get messed up by overthinking. Think that relationships will get tied up with complexities for this habit of overthinking.
So just think, think deeply. Think in a positive way. Think for yourself. Think for mankind. But don't try to start overthinking. It's not a leisure-time activity to avoid boredom!
Overthinking is a dream within a dream in a form of demon. Now think about what I've written.
" I'm waiting for you."
Soothing to heart this is. Waiting values anything essential in life. There's no one who doesn't feel the eternal essence of waiting.
It's existence can't be eschewed. Existence is like the sky and waiting is it's voidance.
Where is the fruition of that if there is no waiting for anything? This is waiting which makes the ecstasy of obtaining something unexplainable.
Limitless waiting is very rare and nearest to impossible. But if anyone can do that, he and his waiting will both be very precious.
Waiting is just like waves. After the end of a wait, a new one is born.
Any particular waiting can be fruitful or not. Though we become miserable for sometime, we don't step back. Because hope is the mother of it.
Waiting is a bliss, it is painful too. Still we wait. Actually this is the waiting which leads our journey to eternity.
